Because I have a personal relationship with Freyja I will dispense with some of what is told to us in the Eddas about Freyja, and discuss here what I know about her. To get some of it out of the way I will print this from Gylfaginning :
" Freyja is as distinguished as Frigga. She is married to a man called Odr, and their daughter is Hnoss. ( Their other daughter, Gersemi, is not mentioned in Gylfaginning. ) Odr goes away on long journeys, and Freyja weeps for him, and her tears are red - gold. Freyja has many names, and the reason for this is that she gave herself several when she went to look for Odr among the peoples she did not know. She is called Mardoll, Horn, Gefn, and Syr. Freyja owns the necklace of the Brisings. She is called the divinity of the Vanir. "
Freyja is seen by some in our religion as a Goddess of great sexuality, and is of course known as a Vanir fertility Goddess. I do not doubt that her feminine sexuality is one of her great strengths ! This, however, is not the side of herself that she has ever shown to me. This could be for a variety of reasons. It could possibly be because I am an old man, or that Goddesses do not see us in that way. In any case I personally think it is because Freyja, Thor, and Odin had a slightly different plan for me.
It is said that she cries red - gold tears when her husband is away, and she feels lonely. These tears surely come from a heart that is as large, and kind, as any that I have ever seen, or felt before in my life. If she lets you into her heart she can bathe you in love, and a feeling of comfort that will ease years of pain and torment. To be loved ( non - sexually) by Freyja is a joy that is extremely hard to describe to others. As close as I can come to what it feels like is the feeling you get when you kiss someone special for the first time, or the first time someone tells you that they love you. I am sorry but that is as close as I can come to the actual feeling.
Behind those loving eyes, and kind heart, however, is a Goddess of incredible mental aptitude, and strength of will. Do not take her gentle loving ways as weakness my friends ! She is as strong as any of the Gods and Goddesses. She, like Gullveig, has mastered the magical arts known as Seidr, and she is not afraid to use these great magical powers in love or war. I personally bow before her as I would bow before any warrior God, and honor her with the respect she deserves, and has rightfully earned.
As far as calling her the Queen of the Valkyries.... sorry, I don' t see it. She is the keeper of half of the Einherjar, but I do not believe that she leads them as All - Father does. I think she only houses them in Sessrumnir as a favor, or maybe out of respect for Odin.
Freyja is said to have taught the Aesir her Shamanic magic called Seidr. Some even say that Freyja and Gullveig are one and the same Goddess. This is something I disagree with 100 %. The Aesir hated Gullveig, and feared her because she could not be destroyed. I find it very difficult to believe that they would later invite her into the great hall of Odin as an honored guest the way Freyja was. On the flip side of that coin, why would anyone, who was stabbed repeatedly with spears, and then burned three times go back and help these same Aesir Gods ? No ! Gullveig and Freyja are seperate Goddesses of that I am sure ! Odin did, in my opinion, ask Freyja after the Aesir - War to teach him the shamanic arts, because he saw how powerful they made Gullveig. For Odin to want to learn this art is unusual because Seidr is considered throughout the Eddas as a feminine art. Obviously Odin in his great wisdom recognized its great value.
I knew that any article that I wrote on Freyja would run long, so let me end by talking about Freyja' s supposed infidelity . Snorri uses Freyja as a bargaining chip, in some of his stories. When Thor' s Hammer is stolen the Jotun, Thyrm, asks for Freyja ' s hand in marriage as a condition for returning the hammer . An unnamed Jotun who builds the great wall around Asgard asks for Freyja, Sunna, and Mani, as his wages for his work. And Hrungnir, another Jotun, boasts in a drunken rage, in Odin' s Hall , that he will kill all of the Aesir except Freyja and Sif, who he will then take back to Jotunheim with him. These three instances clearly show that she is the object of lust amongst the Jotuns, but that doesn ' t mean that she lusts after them of course.
In Sorla Thattir it says that Freyja gives herself to the Dwarves to obtain the necklace Brisingamen. If she did this, it points out a double standard in our religion, that also exists in most religions, that if a male sleeps around it is o ' k, but if a female sleeps around she is a prostitute. When Odin sleeps with Gunnlod to obtain the Mead of Wisdom, or sleeps with Rind to have Vali, or even Jord to have Thor, he is seen as doing something necessary and productive for the Asgardian realm. Granted we are never told the true meaning, or power, of the Brisingamen necklace, but we should not judge Freyja harshly if we accept what Odin does in similar situations. Actually I am not sure I believe the story of how Freyja obtained the Brisingamen necklace anyway. It just doesn' t seem like the Goddess I know.
Getting back to her lustful Jotuns for a minute, it does say in Gylfaginning that when she was asked to go to Thrym in exchange for the hammer she became very angry, and told the Gods ; " Everyone will know me to be most eager for men if I go. " Ultimately she does not go of course and poor Thor is forced to dress up like Freyja to retrieve his hammer. In Lokasenna Loki also assaults her good name, but we must take anything that Loki says in Aegir' s hall with a grain of salt. Remember he even smears All - Mother Frigga' s reputation as well !
I judge people for what they show themselves to be and not what I am told they are. I am no different with the Gods and Goddesses. I have seen Freyja and felt her presence, and I have deemed her to be in a word........ LOVE !
Go with Odin' s wisdom, Freyja' s love, and Thor's protection !