Freyja, it says in the Eddas, is lusted after by Gods, Jotuns, Dwarves, Elves, and men alike. At the same time in Gylfagginning it states, " She is the most accessible for people to call on, and from her name it is a sign of respect that women of substance are forever called "Fruvur" ( ladies ). Snorri goes on to say that she enjoys erotic poetry, and that it is good to call on her in matters of love. So Freyja is a sexual Goddess. As a fertility Goddess I would expect her to be more sexual than for instance Mother Frigga, or Skadhi, the great huntress. The Gods and Goddesses all have their own roles and their own personalities, just as we humans here on Midgard do. Being sexual and being " loose" in my opinion, however, are two totally different things entirely.
When Thor's hammer was stolen the Eddas tell us that the Jotun Thrym will only return it if he can marry Freyja. When the Gods, who now feel defenseless, go to Freyja and ask her to marry Thrym for the sake of Asgard she flatly refuses, and even states that everyone will know her to be most eager for men if she does. That does not sound to me to be a " loose woman ", but instead a woman who is concerned about her reputation, and one who has dignity. Freyja is also part of several other "bargains" which include the time the unnamed giant is building the wall around Asgard, and asks as his compensation the Sun, the Moon, and Freyja. She was not happy about that little deal made by the Gods of Asgard either. And though I could not find the passage I thought I had read that Odin's Hall shook from her fury when she found out.
Much credence is given to Loki's outburst in Lokasenna, when he yells at Freyja in front of a whole host of Aesir, Vanir, and Elves. Loki accuses her of being a lover of each and every one of those gathered at the feast. Loki even goes so far as to say that she was caught in bed with her brother Freyr as well. It is hard for me personally to take anything that Loki says in a drunken stupor seriously. At this same feast he tells tales about almost all the Gods and Goddesses, most of which are probably untrue, or half - truths, including Mother Frigga.
There are two tales in which her promiscuity does surface. One is the well known story where Freyja sleeps with the four craftsmen dwarfs who created the Brisingamen necklace, to obtain this wonderful piece of jewelry. Hyndla also accuses Freyja of being Ottar's, a human, mistress in Hyndluljod. It does not say at which point in her life these indescretions took place, if they happened at all. We humans, in our youths, make all kinds of mistakes exploring our sexuality. How many of you out there cringe at an encounter you had in your youth that you now regret, and wonder how it happened in the first place. I don't see the Gods as being much different. Remember, Odin and his brothers gave us life, and modeled us after them, so I think we are probably much the same.
A discussion of Freyja' s sexuality cannot be ended without discussing the fact that she is married to the God Od, and has two children with him, Gersemi, and Hnoss. Her love for Od is attested to in the Eddas when it clearly states that she is often going off to search for husband who is always off traveling in the nine worlds. That to me does not sound like a woman who has infidelity on her mind ( though with her husband gone so much she would have ample opportunity ), but instead shows her to be a dedicated wife who is concerned for her husband and family.
I recently saw a cartoon on an Asatru Facebook site that I found rather offensive. It showed a sexy Freyja with the caption : " Lay them or slay them ! " Even if you believe that Freyja is a little loose, which I surely do not, I feel that this is over the top and very disrespectful to a wonderful Goddess. It reminded me of the Icelander Hjalti Skeggasson who was outlawed for blasphemy for calling Freyja a bitch in a recited poem. If the ones who wrote and posted this do not fear their own kind calling them out on this, they surely should fear Freyja' s wrath. I would not want to be on the receiving end of her anger !
I see Freyja, and for that matter all the Gods and Goddesses, the way she has presented herself to me and not how the Eddas or Sagas describe her. I see Freyja as a lady, regal in many ways, who is a wife and a mother. She is easy to summon and has a big heart, and a warm personality. She is in a word wonderful. I see Freyja not as a Goddess of sexuality and promiscuity, but for what she is, the wonderful Goddess of love !
Go with Odin's wisdom, Freyja's love, and Thor's protection !